Monthly Gathering -- general info -- next gathering
8:00 PM, 2nd Friday of each month -- Please note the new time!
Woodbridge Hilton Hotel
Iselin, New Jersey
Garden State Parkway, North/South Exit 131A
Regional Gathering (RG)
Snowball XLI
CNJM's Regional Gathering
Iselin, New Jersey
Garden State Parkway, North/South Exit 131A
  • the nation's longest-running RG
  • 24-hour hospitality
  • interesting speakers - Friday night and all day Saturday
  • new, larger games room open all weekend
  • karaoke - Friday night
  • craft session - Saturday afternoon
  • dj dance - Saturday night
  • multi-media swap - Sunday morning
  • very close to Metropark train station
  • hotel has well-equipped fitness center and indoor pool
  • free parking
  • register online or by mail
  • day rates available
Register Now!!
Annual Gathering (AG)
Brilliance in Beantown
Mensa's 2014 Annual Gathering
July 2-6, 2014
Boston, Massachusetts

National Events

Colloquium 2014
Crime Scene Intelligence
July 1, 2014
(a one-day add-on to the 2014 Annual Gathering)
Boston, Massachusetts
Mind Games 2015
American Mensans get together to play and rate the latest board and card games over one spring weekend.
May 1-3, 2015
San Diego, California
Looking Ahead
Future Annual Gatherings
  • 2015 AG -- Louisville, Kentucky
  • 2016 AG -- San Diego, California
  • 2017 AG -- TBD
Future Mind Games
  • 2016 - TBD

Nearby Regional Gatherings

Snowball XLI
Central New Jersey Mensa
Iselin, NJ -- Garden State Parkway, North/South Exit 131A
Winter Solstice RG
Central Pennsylvania Mensa
December 2014
Bird-in-Hand, PA

Monthly Gathering

CNJM holds a gathering each month on a variety of eclectic topics that have included: guitar-making, military police dog demonstration, NJ tombstone markings, revolutionary war mutinies, and quantum physics proving love (to name a few). These presentations are usually held on the 2nd Friday at 8:00 PM in the Hilton Woodbridge Hotel in Iselin, NJ.

Members, guests, and potential members are all welcomed. Admission is now free.

At 6:30 PM (before the gathering) please join your Mensan peers for dinner and sparkling conversation at Le Cafe Metro...casual buffet dining overlooking the Hilton lobby. The custom-cooked "Mensan Buffet" includes three hot entrees, salads, and a large selection of desserts including fresh fruit. Both hot and cold beverages are included in the price. New Mensa buffet price is $16.35 + tax + gratuity. Anyone who sits at our long table or mentions Mensa buffet gets this price. For non-Mensan patrons at Le Cafe Metro the price is $18.95 + tax + 18% gratuity. Regular menu items are also offered. Please join us for dinner, the program, or both.

Next gathering:

Friday, July 11, 2014 at 8:00 PM -- Please note the new time!

Robert Dinsmore, Retired FBI Special Agent Hostage Negotiation - Today

Mr. Dinsmore will discuss what is new and what is old. Questions will be presented and answered such as - what are the fundamentals of hostage negotiation, what are the analytics and some secrets to effective communication? Should you bargain with a hostage taker or listen to them? During the presentation we will look at what is, and is not, a hostage situation. We will look at how we communicate when engaged with people who have put themselves in desperate situations. We will discuss ways to resolve a hostage situation. This should reframe the way you look at hostage negotiations.

Negotiators today use and attempt to analyze verbal, quasi verbal and nonverbal communication when conducting assessments of subjects. This information will give the attendees a better understanding of how we influence others and how they influence us. Some of the information may be used in the kinds of negotiations we face in everyday life, from negotiations regarding contracts to interpersonal conflicts with intransigent colleagues or hostile neighbors. As we know – before we can influence others we must first listen and understand. Listening is the cheapest concession we can ever make. There will be some demonstrations, interactions and an opportunity for questions.

Mr. Dinsmore is presently an Adjunct Professor at both Centenary & Essex County Colleges in New Jersey. At Centenary College he instructs students in the Masters of Leadership and Public Administration program and provides classes in Leadership, Management and Conflict Resolution. At Essex County College he conducts classes in National Security, Terrorism, Intelligence Analysis, Border Security, Airplane and Airport Security and Criminal Justice. Mr. Dinsmore also provides training to various Police Academies and private security per- sonnel inside and outside of the U.S, where he conducts training in Leadership, Management, Hostage Negotiation, Interviewing and Interrogation. Robert has over twenty five years of investigative experience as a Special Agent with the FBI. He supervised investigations and assisted in the prosecutions of major organized crime, pension fraud, commercial theft, and counter-terrorism investigations leading to numerous arrests and convictions. He has also been a member of various Special Operations Teams and headed the Crisis Negotiation program for the FBI in Newark, New Jersey. As a designated Master Police Instructor for the FBI, he has conducted training sessions in crisis management, hostage negotiation, SWAT tactics, firearms instruction, leadership, supervisory management, ethics, workplace and school violence issues.

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